
But whenever I see or hear them spending so much money after possessions, I start comparing again. I must say that my financial planning is sound enough to take care of my existing family and I can take care of new family member also, at least for some time even if I lose my current job. I know it is not proper to compare myself with them on the basis of what physical possessions they have. I can’t stop myself comparing my lifestyle with theirs.

The problem is that I have got my teammates, who come from very affluent families. My job also such that I can’t meet both my ends, if I get married and start a new family. I wanted to talk about this issue because of an email from a reader recently: It’s actually one of the keys to success, because without this ability, you will be unmotivated, and won’t believe in yourself. Instead, if I looked at my strengths - writing useful and honest posts - I can see that I have a lot to offer, a lot to be happy about.Īnd that’s so important - being able to look at your own strengths, and see your true value. Just because I don’t measure up doesn’t mean I should get out of the blogging business, or that I should get depressed or jealous or resentful. In fact, I look pretty pitiful (I’m a lousy drawer and don’t know anything about video).īut wait a minute: it’s not a fair comparison. Let’s say I take a look at someone who creates amazing artwork and really top-notch podcasts on their website … and I look at my art and video skills, and realize that I don’t come close to measuring up. It’s a sure-fire recipe for a drop in self-confidence and for unhappiness. The funny thing is, this is what most of us do at one time or another - and some of us do pretty often.

If you took the strengths of others, and compared them to your weaknesses, how do you think you’d size up? And do you think this would make you feel good?

“Enjoy your own life without comparing it with that of another.” – Marquis de Condorcet
